Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Remix Day 22 and My journey to Feminine dress
" A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on woman's garments, for all who do are an abomination to the Lord." -Deuteronomy 22:4
1 Timothy 2:5-10 " I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or wearing of gold or pearls or costly clothing but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works."
Both of these verses I really pondered for over a year before I started trying to dress modestly and femininely full time! The Lord kept telling me to start dresesing in mostly dresses and skirt and top that were not too tight and no tight jeans anymore, but I kept resisting. I wanted to be like my peers in the youth group, but once I gave all my clothing to Him and told Him I would wear what He wanted me to wear He guided me to the types of clothing that I wear now and He guided me to styles that were modest and feminine and not frumpy only. I also thought modesty meant frumpy! But it does not, it means femininity and closeness to the Lord. That is better than my old clothing! Its so much better to not have to worry about my clothing and realize He will show me what to wear in the morning and good works and striving after Him is so much more important! So ladies I have come to realize that in the morning before I get ready, I pray and I read the Word and spend time with Him. Then I go to closet and spend a few minutes getting the outfit together. Spending an hour or so with the Lord really helps get you in the right frame of mind to choose a godly and feminine outfit. :)
Now this is between you and the Lord to what you should wear, and just because I say this outfit is modest and feminine does not mean you must dress according to my standards. You should be asking the Lord what is feminine and modest and will be glorifying to Him to wear. When I was 16 I remember reading the book So Much More by Elizabeth and Anna Sophia Botkin after I met them in person for the first time. I was freaked out because I thought I had to dress the way they dressed. I believe they were in their early 20's when I met them and I was only 16. I was scared that if I did not dress just like them that I was sinning because my hem line was not to the ground and my neck lines were not as high as theirs. But they were older than me and they are two different people who are receiving guidance from the Lord that may be different than what I being told by the Lord at 16 years old. It was hard enough for me to wear skirts at my knees, let alone to my ankles. It was hard for me to dress in an elegant and modest way. I wanted to dress just like them because I had a respect for them, but it was for the wrong reasons I thought I was sinning because I did not dress according to their standards.
I was putting them up on a pedestal and I was not realizing that I needed to form my own sense of style and what the Lord told me was modest and feminine to wear, not copy other people because they are so much holier than I am! Well no they are not holier, but I thought so, I was a new christian and still not seeing that I needed to be set apart and have my own standards and convictions and not just do what others are doing because they seem to know what is modest. I needed to look to the Lord and His Word myself and then form my own convictions about it from the Lord, not other people.
But I just want to emphasis that we should not just follow the crowd, even in christian circles! Don't wear the denim skirt only because your friend says its modest and don't wear that top just because someone says you have to wear a top that is that high! Form your own convictions about what is and is not modest and feminine. I realize this is hard and lots of times I have gotten harsh words because someone thought I was too modest or needed to dress more worldly. I am through with being of the world, so I want to dress in a way that is modern, but still feminine and not conforming to the fashions of the day. I am conforming to the Lords view of modesty in dress and demeanor.
So I hope this post is helpful, its not a thing about pants or skirts and its not about being fashionable or shabby, its about professing godliness to a dying world with our clothing. I hope this blog strives to hold true to that! God bless ladies!
The song below by the Gettys is the goal of this blog to be fed by the Word of God. I pray that everyone is fed by the Word of God through my blog.