Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Remix Day 22 and My journey to Feminine dress

 hello everyone! A friend of mine told me in an email that it was great that my blog is not just about fashionable clothing, its about being set apart in our clothing, because we are meant to be temples of the Holy Spirit and that is precious in God's sight. So I want to emphasis this in this post. I do not post pictures of myself in my feminine clothing to point fingers at anyone for being frumpy or for being immodest. That is not my goal, my goal is show that I dress in a feminine and modest way because Jesus Christ died for my sins and its the least I can do to for Him by obeying His commandment to me to dress in a modest and feminine way. Many of you may be wondering where it says in the Bible that we must dress in modest and feminine apparel?! I would tell you to read 1 Timothy, especially chapter 2 about the church and how men and women have different roles in the church and how they are to act and dress as members of the church. I would also tell you to read Deuteronomy and Proverbs, especially Proverbs chapter 31 and chapter 22 of Deuteronomy.The goal of my blog is to emphasize that the Lord is our top priority and our clothing even should be Biblical. Yes ladies your whole life should be measured against the Bible. So I decided when I was 16 to read the Word and find out what the Lord had to say about modest dress. So here are my thoughts on that.

 I pondered this question when I was 16 and here are the verses the Lord used to convict me that it was a command to dress a feminine and modest way.
" A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on woman's garments, for all who do are an abomination to the Lord." -Deuteronomy 22:4 

1 Timothy 2:5-10 " I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or wearing of gold or pearls or costly clothing but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works."

Both of these verses I really pondered for over a year before I started trying to dress modestly and femininely full time! The Lord kept telling me to start dresesing in mostly dresses and skirt and top that were not too tight and no tight jeans anymore, but I kept resisting. I wanted to be like my peers in the youth group, but once I gave all my clothing to Him and told Him I would wear what He wanted me to wear He guided me to the types of clothing that I wear now and He guided me to styles that were modest and feminine and not frumpy only. I also thought modesty meant frumpy! But it does not, it means femininity and closeness to the Lord. That is better than my old clothing! Its so much better to not have to worry about my clothing and realize He will show me what to wear in the morning and good works and striving after Him is so much more important! So ladies I have come to realize that in the morning before I get ready, I pray and I read the Word and spend time with Him. Then I go to closet and spend a few minutes getting the outfit together. Spending an hour or so with the Lord really helps get you in the right frame of mind to choose a godly and feminine outfit. :)

Now this is between you and the Lord to what you should wear, and just because I say this outfit is modest and feminine does not mean you must dress according to my standards. You should be asking the Lord what is feminine and modest and will be glorifying to Him to wear. When I was 16 I remember reading the book So Much More by Elizabeth and Anna Sophia Botkin after I met them in person for the first time. I was freaked out because I thought I had to dress the way they dressed. I believe they were in their early 20's when I met them and I was only 16. I was scared that if I did not dress just like them that I was sinning because my hem line was not to the ground and my neck lines were not as high as theirs. But they were older than me and they are two different people who are receiving guidance from the Lord that may be different than what I being told by the Lord at 16 years old. It was hard enough for me to wear skirts at my knees, let alone to my ankles. It was hard for me to dress in an elegant and modest way. I wanted to dress just like them because I had a respect for them, but it was for the wrong reasons I thought I was sinning because I did not dress according to their standards.

I was putting them up on a pedestal and I was not realizing that I needed to form my own sense of style and what the Lord told me was modest and feminine to wear, not copy other people because they are so much holier than I am! Well no they are not holier, but I thought so, I was a new christian and still not seeing that I needed to be set apart and have my own standards and convictions and not just do what others are doing because they seem to know what is modest. I needed to look to the Lord and His Word myself and then form my own convictions about it from the Lord, not other people.

So I am writing all this to say that just because I wear something does not mean you have to wear the same thing. It does not mean I am dressing modestly either and it does not mean I am better than you because I dress this way. We are all at our own point in our convictions and reading of the Word. So search the Word for what you believe the Lord says about modesty and femininity. You can email if you have more questions here- ra.stricker@gmailcom

But I just want to emphasis that we should not just follow the crowd, even in christian circles! Don't wear the denim skirt only because your friend says its modest and don't wear that top just because someone says you have to wear a top that is that high! Form your own convictions about what is and is not modest and feminine. I realize this is hard and lots of times I have gotten harsh words because someone thought I was too modest or needed to dress more worldly. I am through with being of the world, so I want to dress in a way that is modern, but still feminine and not conforming to the fashions of the day. I am conforming to the Lords view of modesty in dress and demeanor.

So I hope this post is helpful, its not a thing about pants or skirts and its not about being fashionable or shabby, its about professing godliness to a dying world with our clothing. I hope this blog strives to hold true to that! God bless ladies!

The song below by the Gettys is the goal of this blog to be fed by the Word of God. I pray that everyone is fed by the Word of God through my blog. 

In Christ,


KatySue Pillsbury said...

Great post! I agree with you that it's personal and different journey for every person, instead of just a list of modesty rules we all need to follow!

Gabrielle Renee said...

Wonderful post, Rebecca! It sounds a little familiar. I think a lot of girls go through the same thing.

Sarah Jane said...

This is a really wonderful post Rebecca. I appreciate, so much, all that you have said about modest dress/dressing to please the Lord.

I started wearing skirts/dresses/headcovering at around age 13 and for a long time struggled with a very legalistic attitude. So, I'm coming from a somewhat different background (although the sinful attitude of pride was my motivation then) but I am now at the point where I too believe God will reveal His will to us each day, if we but ask Him to and spend time with Him, yes, even down to what we put on our bodies! For it is our bodies after all that people usually notice first, before we even speak. What we wear says volumes about our heart. And to use our clothing to reflect the grace of God is such an amazing thing.

I too agree that everyone is at different levels in their Christian walk; different points of growth and everyone has different lives. What may be appropriate for a stay at home mom may not be what He would have a high profile singer, or actress, or career woman wear. But He will reveal Himself to those of us who seek Him. What a wonderful truth to rely on! Not having to worry about what people think of us, but only His opinion! For that is all that really matters.

Thanks again for this post - I need to print this out and give to those who ask me about modest attire. You have said it very well!

Miss Virginia said...

Thank you for posting all of this, Becca. I appreciate your honesty and I know others do too. :) It's good to know I'm not alone!


SinginginHisName said...

glad this was applicable to you all! I was praying others would be encouraged by the post! glad the Lord can use little me to be an encouragement! :)

If you have any suggestions in regards to wording or something that needs to be redone, just comment or email me. I am all for having it be more applicable and clear for others to read!

Sarah I am so glad to hear your story, I have met so many homeschooled gals who are steeped in legalism and my heart goes out to me! Glad the Lord turned your heart to the right attitude of modesty!

In Christ,

Melanie said...

This was a great post, Rebecca!
I love that song...thank you for sharing...I am so glad I heard it tonight...we sing it at our church but I hadn't heard it in a little while.

Ephesians 1:2,

Miss Linda said...

This is such an important post and I am so glad you took the time to express these thoughts! Modesty is about so much more than the clothing on one's person. I think it can be far too easy to turn the issue of dress into an idol. If you begin to judge the spirituality of another person based solely on their attire, then you just may be heading down the wrong path.

I do believe we will be judged more for the quality of our character than the content of our closets. Modesty is an important virtue, but it is not the ONLY important virtue.

Kris10 said...

Hello again Rebecca...
Again another wonderful post. I am just beginning my journey into feminine attire. I have always been modest, and have always felt the importance of 'testifying without words' when it comes to appearance. But, in the last few months, I have really felt an urge to also dress in a more feminine manner. I have to give credit to you, and also some other fantastic ladies for writing such encouraging words, regarding this subject. Reading posts like these, make me realize that little nudge in my heart isn't just my conscience telling me modesty is important. It's really God leading me to the next stage of following Him.

Again, THANK YOU! There isn't anybody in my church college age group, who is even considering dressing more feminine, so having an online support is really encouraging.

Kristen N. Porter

SinginginHisName said...

melanie yes I love this song as well! we also sing it at our church sometimes.

Miss Linda yes I believe modesty is important to show that outwardly we are in a relationship with our Savior, but its not the only virture to have! you are right! humbleness, gentleness, chastity, forgiving spirit, and so many more are so much more important, but I wanted to focus on modesty as thats something I post about on my blog a lot. :)

kristen, yes I really can relate, I never thought when we dress it would show that we are feminine as we are women. But the Lord really convicted me! I always thought too that our words should show our faith, but then I came to realize that I should be showing outwardly too that I am a woman and not a man as the Lord created both genders that are different. Glad He is showing you the same thing!

I am so glad I could be of some encouragement! but I want to bring it back to Christ, because if He had died for my sins and made me a new creation I would not be writing any of this and its all from His Word anyway. So Praise God He is using me to encourage you!

feel free to email me if you want some encouragement or just to chat about Our Awesome God!

In Christ,